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A few weeks ago, I broke up with my girlfriend, who is from the USA (I'm Hungarian), and I'm trying to reflect on what happened, what I gained, and what I lost. I definitely gained some relief in the sense that the complexity of the relationship - visa, long distance - is gone. However, I also lost a lot of things: not only my partner, but also the idea of living on a different continent with a different lifestyle, a high salary (I'm a software engineer), and career opportunities. Now I'm asking myself a few questions: What is the next step for me? What are money and family truly worth? Would I be happier there than here? There are a lot of questions in my mind.
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Change is difficult, but I think it's very healthy of you to analyze what happened and ponder these questions, so that you can embrace the good in this change. Great post!
I admire your objectivity.
I hope that was for your best!
No offense but what caught my attention was that you talked about a kind of materialistic advantages/ disadvantages: visa, living with a different lifestyle, salary, etc. You didn't mention any personal/ emotional gains or loss! Yes, you mentioned your partner but that was superficial.
I'm just curious to know is it because you didn't want to talk about this emotional part or is it just how most Europeans would contemplate after a breakup?
@Double-Zee No offense taken. I also find this post pretty superficial. The reason is because I didn't want to talk about the emotional part and I don't think I will ever want to talk about that part on this website. Even if I post more about my breakup, I don't think it will go much deeper than this.
Being superficial is not really a European trait. If anything, sometimes I wish we didn't go that deep with everything - Especially as a Hungarian.
I think it's correct not to go into intimate details of your breakup on Journaly. If you start belly-aching about your ex on here, there'll be no end to it and you'll never move on. When you put something or someone in the past, they should stay in the past, in my humble opinion.
Thanks for your answer, @Norbert!
Actually, I didn't mean being superficial by my question but considering only materialist parts, which sounded like a European/ Western thing to me.
I hope you're feeling good and ready to move on!
Edited: My comment wasn't meant you should write about the emotional part to prove the contrary of what I thought. It was just an attempt to understand another aspect of Westerners.