Last time I wrote here about love (check it out my first publication in French), I was in love with a friend of mine. I'm not in love anymore but I remember that feeling very well and how happy it is. Do you agree that it's so cool to be in love with someone? Especially when you feel the other person feels the same way?
My story with this friend is already finished. He broke up with me, it was sad but I coped with it. Months later, I met someone new. Someone with qualities that I appreciate so much and I see so many points of interest in common. Unfortunately, I don't feel I'm in love with him.
Being in love with someone is definitely not something we chose to do. When it happens, it's sudden, and we have to deal with it... My point is: what to do when it does not happen? Is it possible to build this feeling?
Is it possible to be in love with someone who you don't think is physically attractive? How important is body connection compared to mind connection?
I'd like to be in love with someone.
I really don't know if you can fall in love with someone who you don't think is physically attractive (it hasn't been the case for me). Don't worry, you'll surely fall in love soon. Greetings!
You can love someone without 'falling in love' with them. Just don't marry them!
Bom amiguinha, existem casos que a pessoa só começa a gostar da outra após certo tempo, eu iria ficar no relacionamento por um curto período para tentar ver se eu posso amar a pessoa, caso contrário, seria sincero e terminaria, asvezes, terminar no final acaba sendo o maior ato de amor pelo próximo (neste sentido, em geral)
@MexAlba99 hahaha thank you for the optimism :) and thank you for the correction also!
@Alan-Alain thank you for your comment!
@Nori I totally agree with you! Obrigada pelos comentários! :)
This is one of the mysteries of life. It is like certain atoms attract the electrons of certain other atoms, and not of others. Many people theorize about why we are attracted to some people but not others (Because they remind us of us our parents! Because they make us feel free from our rules! Because / because / because) but it is all bullshit theories. I’m a female and I’m not even young and I am certainly not single (married with four children) but sometimes on the subway I will look at a guy and think, as a funny thing, that guy would feel good. And I don’t know anything about him! And he certainly doesn’t remind me of my parents or make me feel like I am escaping any rules. Or I will be resting with my eyes closed on the subway and someone will sit down and our arms or shoulders will be touching and I don’t even know what they look like, or if they are male or female, or 90 years old. I will simply think, that feels nice and I will feel calm, connected to another human being. And these are strangers. I just like their energy. And there are some people in my life who just have a certain energy, and I can’t get enough of it, it is just raw untamed energy. Anyway, I think it is a perception of energy that you felt. Your first boyfriend gave off a certain energy and your second one didn’t/doesn’t. It doesn’t mean you can’t build a good relationship or work together well. It just means that energy is not there. But it isn’t necessary to have that energy in a relationship - a lot of times that kind of energy creates passionate tumultuous relationships that are really stressful. Anyways, that is my experience with your question. I am curious about other people’s perceptions.
Hey @Nemvagok! Thank you so much for your comment!! :) It was nice to read your thoughts! Thanks for sharing it! I am also curious about other people's perceptions, I'll wait for more comments!! :D