Drama! So my ex is sharing the details of our breakup on TikTok. I didn't like it from the start, but at least she didn't say anything bad about me... until now. Yesterday, she posted a video complaining that I'm back on dating apps, calling it a betrayal. She's also upset that I'm using pictures from our trip to New York—a trip her parents paid for. Her friends, who I know and spent years building connections with, are commenting that I "belong in the trash," and I'm not a man. We were long-distance for 9 months and broke up a month ago. What else should I do to avoid being the villain here? It's not like I'm actively using the app; I just have a profile. And yes, I'm using those pictures because I never asked anyone to take me to New York. I'm grateful for the experience, but it was a gift I didn't request. What pictures am I supposed to use? The past 5 years of my life involved her. Should I use a picture from 2019, before I knew her? What does she expect?
PS.: I'm a bit hurt by this, but I also see the other side of her story: her struggle, her sorrow, how much she's improved since the breakup, and the lessons she's learned. She's just sad, lonely, depressed, and missing her person.
You're not the problem here — she is. You're seeing her (and her friends') true colors. But you know what... at least it's just a breakup and not a divorce. She sounds absolutely horrible!
@CocoPop - My post is a bit harsh. I added an "PS" to it.
You're a lot more generous than her; she's making it to where her friends say awful things about you, and you're over here trying to protect her from harsh comments. That's very telling, if you ask me. She can be sad, lonely, depressed and whatever you want without crucifying you on social media. That's just mean.
Your story reminded a little bit of my brother's breakup. I don't think there's much you can do to change their minds. Why would they believe you over her? They'll believe whatever she says about you. Also, these people are in America, and you're in Europe; it's not like you'll bump into them around town. My advice is to block them on social media.