I've been visiting my parents once a week to check on them because they are getting older. My dad is 92 years old and mom is 86. They still can do everything on their own and they are quite independent, but I can't stop worrying about them. So, I help them such as cleaning their house, shopping, taking them to their clinics and so on.
Today, I took my mom to her clinic. She had an appointment of her doctor's check-up. While waiting for her tern together, I saw lots of elderly patients. Some were waiting for their tern without anybody's help, even though they clearly needed somebody's support. Others held canes just like my mom. Since she broke her leg last year, she's needed it when she walks. A patient had no facial expression, which made me think she probably has been suffering from Alzheimer's. The nurses seemed to be busy to talk to each patient. A nurse approached toward us to ask me if my mom would be fine. I don't live with my parents, but at least twice a month I go out with them to eat meals. I always watch them carefully to check if they eat enough, they use their eating tools correctly and more. I shared a story with the nurse, which we went out visiting an English garden a couple weeks ago. She told me that my mom was quite lucky with smile.
When her doctor called her, we entered the examination room. He asked some general questions, and showed her blood test result. It was good. I felt at easy when I heard it. He told my mom that she was one of his patients, who look happiest. It made me feel so happy. I want my mom to be always happy. So, I want to do anything I can to make her feel happy. When she heard what the doctor said, my mom smiled and replied, “I’m the happiest person in the world.” The moment definitely made my day.
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It's wonderful that your mother feels so happy and that what she said made your day. You're lucky that your parents still have their cognitive abilities. How you look out for them and take them to doctor appointments, shop, and tidy their house reminds me of the years I did this for my parents. My mother, unfortunately, had dementia and had to go to a nursing home after it became too difficult to care for her at home. I would visit her almost every day to make sure she was getting good care and just to have conversations with her as she told me about her imaginary world. There were some hilarious moments! She passed away in 2018 when she was 92. Then, my father lived by himself until he passed away in 2021 at 97. Taking care of them was stressful, especially as their health deteriorated and at times they became uncooperative. I hope you have the support of other family members so that not everything falls to you.
Thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I really don't want to live in the regretting world, where I wouldn't have done. So, I do my best to take care of them. My day is busy because I've been taking care of my grandson as well. I need 30 hours a day, lol.
Since we live in a different prefecture, it takes me two hours to get my parents' house. I do appreciate that I have a supportive husband. His mom got dementia as well, and she and I used to enjoy chatting with her marginally world. It certainly was fun. I miss her because she passed away four months ago.
More or less, we all have to deal with our parents' issues, so I'd love to enjoy what I'm doing with them!
I really feel happy for your mother, that she has such a friendly and caring daughter.
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